Good questions about gossip

I made a new friend a couple months ago and I want to tell you about our friendship because I have been blessed immensely by it.

Outwardly, her and I are very different people. She is much older than I am. She is an artist, I am far from it. She is not very outspoken, I generally speak my mind. She is soft-spoken, I am Italian (enough said). She loves cats, I think cats are the spawn of satan. She loves being a mom, I never want to be a mom. She always feels bad when people get hurt, I laugh. I love roller coasters and rollerblading down lake shore drive and playing sports and you wouldn't find her near anything daring or athletic. I think you get my point.

Inwardly, her and I are very similar people. We both love Jesus. We both love being around people but need to be alone to re energize. We like the same books. We have similar love languages. We have similar attitudes about almost everything (except cats). And there is a lot more but I can't share them without you knowing the both of us and our stories of how we became who we are today.

When her and I talk, even from day one of our friendship, we never talk about surface level garbage. We always talk about the things that matter. We talk about what it means to be a Christian in a fallen world. We ask questions about life and share our stories.

You know the book Tuesdays with Morrie? Every Tuesday this guy goes to visit Morrie and they talk and share their life stories and every conversation is a learning lesson. That is my friend and me. We call it our "after schools" conversations.

During our last "after schools" conversation, my friend brought up a topic that consistently weighs on my heart--judgement and gossip and judging gossipers. Let me explain.

After a faculty meeting one day, my friend was talking to someone and a coworker came up to that person and said something that was very clearly making fun of another coworker and they both laughed. My friend was appalled. First, this was obviously a coworker these two people have made fun of before. Second, why did this coworker think it was okay to make fun of someone else in front of my friend? (Sorry for the lack of names, I just can't use names in case anyone at work reads this). So my friend came to me asking what should she have done in that situation.

I wasn't sure, this is a tough one for me. This is a question I constantly go back and forth on. If she said something along the lines of "please don't talk like that in front of me" then these nonbelievers would have just accused her of being a judgemental Christian. She obviously didn't take part in the conversation or even laugh when they were laughing but should she have done more? Should she have walked away? What could be done in a situation like that?

The bible is very clear on gossip. We are not to let cursings and blessings come from the same mouth and it is not the things we put into our mouths that defile us but the things that come out of our mouths and so on. But where does it talk about when others are gossiping in front of you? I know it has to be somewhere in the Bible and for some reason I never looked into it until today. I did find an answer and I will share it with you tomorrow.